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Healthy advice on Facebook June 24, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Liz @ 11:19 am

576775607_0fc40915de_mThe value of Facebook never ceases to amaze me. I’ve reconnected with long lost friends. It’s helped me learn about my upcoming high school reunion. I’ve taken a few of those quizzes for kicks. And, it helps me with my need to eavesdrop because I can see the posts between mutual friends. But yesterday it helped me in a way I never would have anticipated: I received sound advice about my health.

I should back up and say that on Father’s Day I ruptured a disc in my back. Ouch. I spent the day either crawling on my hands and knees in my mother’s house, or flat on my back on her floor. By Monday afternoon I was still not feeling better, but  sitting in one of our lounge chairs from our patio, I did get on Facebook to entertain myself. In my status update I noted that I was experiencing back pain.

The waves of support came in from everyone. One friend said he’d done the same thing a year ago (empathy is always a plus). My fitness coach gave me directions to ice it (confirmation that what I’d been doing was the right treatment). And then I began to have a Facebook chat with a dear friend from high school. Her husband also has back issues. She said the only way he found relief was through pain meds, then massage and then yoga. “Listen to your body, it’s telling you something,” she wrote.

I knew she was right. And, I felt like an idiot. Why hadn’t I gone to the doctor yet? I disconnected right then and called my doctor’s office. A few hours later I was standing in her waiting room, then standing in the examining room and finally walking out with two powerful prescriptions to help get me through this experience.

Today I’m much better, and I have yet another reason on my list of why I think Facebook is the coolest thing since sliced bread.

Photo courtesy of Creative Commons (Esther Simpson)

 

Super-Short Summer Serial Challenge June 16, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Liz @ 8:39 pm

Tolstoy. Dickens. They wrote serial novels (aka novels in installments). Here’s our chance to try our hand at serial novels, flash fiction style. Check out this fun challenge for July 1-31.

 

Six Word Saturday June 13, 2009

Filed under: Six Word Saturday — Liz @ 1:56 pm

My six words for this Saturday: Thankful for clear eyes and lungs.

 

Four Tags, I’m It? June 9, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Liz @ 8:34 pm

I don’t usually do these tagging things on my blog. But, my writer friend Jesaka tagged me and tonight I feel in need of a little light-hearted writing, something similar to the chain-letter of my youth.  So, here it goes. I’m slightly modifying Jesaka’s tag which included 8 of each item. I’m going to list 4 things in each category…because I can.

4 Things I am looking forward to (in no particular order)

  • Vacation to Holden Village
  • High School Reunion (yes, really!)
  • Hearing younger son’s language skills evolve
  • Watching older son in tennis lessons this summer

4 Things I did yesterday

  • Drove to Portland and back
  • Toured a tea roasting plant
  • Bought clothes for my boys
  • Wrote a rhyming poem with a colleague

4 Things I wish I could do

  • Study with Anne Lamott
  • Consistently hit amazing serves in tennis
  • Ride in a hot air balloon
  • Walk or ride my bike to work

4 TV shows I watch (thanks to Netflix or the net)

  • Lost
  • Grey’s Anatomy
  • Weeds
  • Sesame Street

4 Places I would like to travel

  • France
  • Spain
  • Italy
  • New Zealand

4 Places I’ve lived

  • Japan
  • Portland, Oregon
  • Conway, Massachusetts
  • Walla Walla, Washington

I’m tagging another friend at Write The Journey: 4 tags, you’re it! If you want to tag someone or self-tag, leave a comment with a link to your post below.

 

Six Word…Sunday June 7, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Liz @ 9:16 pm

Glad for recovery, hopeful for future.

 

My Sister’s Keeper June 7, 2009

Filed under: Family, Motherhood — Liz @ 1:37 pm

sisters-keeper-pageAbout five years ago I stumbled upon a book by Jodi Picoult. Since then I’ve read many of her novels. I always have a few moments of envy when I start one of her books — she’s published more than ten novels! Then I let go of the envy and dig in — usually I finish them in record speed, staying up way past my bedtime to read the compelling tales she tells.

Yesterday I finished My Sister’s Keeper, a book about organ donation, siblings,  family dynamics and the dilemmas parents face when their child isn’t healthy. I found it really powerful and thought-provoking.

Unfortunately two mornings after I started reading it, I found myself  at the Children’s Hospital Emergency Room with our younger son who was having trouble breathing. My husband was there, as well as our older son, and once we were in the doctor’s care, and our son was receiving treatment, I found myself thinking of the parents in the novel. It all seemed a little too close to home.

My situation was not nearly the dramatic situation they faced in the novel — no transfusions or kidneys required — but still, I realized the fear and lack of control they felt.  I also looked at the two siblings who are in my care and tried to think of how this trip was impacting my older son. Aside from the thrill of watching all the TV he wanted, was he worried about his brother, was he jealous of the attention, was he irritated to be at the hospital rather than at home?

While I was still paying attention to my older son, like the parents in the novel, I was pretty focused on his younger brother who was sick. As a parent in those situations, it’s hard not to be unequal in one’s focus. The child with the greater need in that moment gets more attention.

In our case, our older son got some individual attention today. He got to make his own trip to the after hours clinic at same said hospital, with me (sort of a date, he said) this afternoon. Why? He has a brutal case of pink eye that arrived yesterday when we returned home from the ER.

So for now, they’re 1 to 1.And I don’t plan to keep score. I pray that I never need to. Right now I’m just thankful that they are both recuperating and doing well.

Side note — I see on Jodi’s website that  it looks like My Sister’s Keeper has been made into a movie. I think it will be a while before I can handle this story in motion picture form.